Acting Profile

I am so hurt at the moment and I need to use this time to vent. I am hurt by a few things at the moment and I feel pretty low. Today I went into Church and the leader had handed out invitation’s to a select number of people inviting them to a party at her house to celebrate a ladies hen night in the Church. It was the way she did this that hurt me the most. Throughout my life I have always been the one that hasn’t been invited to a party where everyone else was. I think it hurt me more because this lady was the Church leader and a Christian. I always thought that as a Christian you were supposed to try not to hurt people. Obviously you know that if you send an invitation to certain people and not to others that you are going to upset someone. At least if there is a genuine reason for some people to go and others not then you should invite the people privately and not in front of everyone on a busy Sunday morning. To send out invitations to every single person invited there and not to others is choosing favourites.

When I asked my Church leader about it she turned round to me and said that only people who were around the ladies age group should be invited. I feel this is a bit of a lame excuse, I’d even call it ageist. My point is that if this was the case then why were these people not invited via a telephone call or an email? Surely this is a more private way of inviting people and avoids hurting another person’s feelings just for the sake of it.

What I want you to think about today is that as you get famous or more popular try not to step on a person’s feet. In the performing arts industry you can go up just as quickly as you can go down and you may need those people who you tread on when you were on the rise. Try to be nice to people and if you have a party don’t just invite some people and other’s not. Remember what it feels like when you are not invited somewhere and the hurt that causes. At least if you want to invite only a few do it sensitively keeping in mind a person’s feelings. It really is the pits when you are not invited somewhere and you hear it on the grapevine or as in my case pushed in your face. Even if you only intend to have a small friendly gathering try to do it in a way that doesn’t hurt someone. Also keep open minded and remember you can learn something from everyone even if they are older or younger than you. Being discriminative just for the sake of it is just plain nasty. I have a very good friend who is about 20 years older than me and I have learned things from her as she has learned things from me. Finally have fun you will be invited to parties and some maybe not but, at least if you have always tried to do the right thing you can relax and know that you are in the right. Most of all keep smiling and be happy.

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